What do moms from coast to coast, with 1 kid or 4, in the city or the suburbs, have in common besides the instinctual need to hoard all cash and protect their their families? They all are - apparently - mad at Dad.
Those are the findings of an extensive and most-read new poll on Parenting.com right now. There are dozens of different statistics in the survey, but they all point to the same conclusion: moms say they are so incredibly frustrated at their husbands and partners due to the uneven split of home and parenting chores -- that they are literally sick over it.
Among the findings: "half of the moms describe their anger as intense but passing; 1 in 10 say it's 'deep and long-lasting.'" Also, "44 percent are peeved that dads often don't notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids." And "40 percent are also angry that their husbands seem clueless about the best way to take care of kids."
It's no wonder that there's been so much talk about a recent NYTimes Op-Ed article by Stephanie Coontz, which says in a very elegant manner that "over the past two decades many researchers have concluded that three’s a crowd when it comes to marital satisfaction." In other words, kids kill marriage.
But while all the sociologists, therapists and scientists continue conducting their polls and research, a sea change in the Great American Middle Class Family may already be underway -- thanks (or no thanks) to the Great Recession of 2009.
As The NYTimes reports, "a milestone may be at hand" because "women are poised to surpass men on the nation’s payrolls, taking the majority for the first time in American history." This is because the vast majority of job cuts our nation is suffering right now are in manufacturing, construction and other male dominated industries. Jobs held mostly by women - in health care and education, "are less sensitive to economic ups and downs."
Bottom line: mom is becoming the sole wage earner while dad is taking over tasks on the home front -- a trend that is expected to last the length of the recession (18 months?) if not longer.
Sociologists are probably salivating at the chance to see if the frustration level of moms drop as they become the main breadwinners -- while that of dad rises to new heights as he takes on the unforgiving schedule that is the life of a Stay-At-Home-Mom.
It's bound to be a grand experiment in trading places. And just one of many life-changers forced on families by the recession. And that's not necessarily a bad thing.......