I have always maintained that the alleged "war" between working moms and SAH (Stay at Home) moms is a figment of the media's imagination.
But there is a definite division between the two - and it's called summer.
For kids whose parents work outside the home, summertime is filled with camps and classes from 9 to 5...or more likely 8 to 6 with before and after-care scheduled in. It's a costly but necessary proposition in order for mom and dad to stay employed and keep those paychecks coming until school resumes in the fall.
For kids who have a SAH parent, summer is a much more leisurely experience. Maybe a camp or two here or there, some day trips, picnics and plenty of free time.
In The Wall Street Journal's "The Juggle" blog this week, writer Jamie Heller says "usually I’m glad I’m a working mother, but there are about 100 days a year that I get downright jealous of stay at home parents. Those days started this week and will probably end around Labor Day."
Well I've got news for you Jamie...the jealousy goes both ways. There are plenty of summer days, particularly those filled with sibling bickering and household chores that HAVE to be done, when SAH's would KILL to trade places with their working counterparts.
For a SAH during the summer, just trying to find a play date for your kids so you can go grocery shopping or to a doctor's appointment alone is hell, because everybody else's kids are in camp because their parents both work!
So while working moms may think that their SAH counterparts are sleeping in, lazing in lounge chairs and reading summer novels while the children happily play....the opposite is often the case. Sure, there are relaxing moments -- but running Camp Mom is not as easy and leisurely as it seems from the outside.
Now I understand why my mom couldn't wait for school to start in September.
Are you a working mom who longs to spend a summer at home with the kids? Or are you a Stay at Home parent who longs to have some time to him/herself during the long summer months? How does your family get through summer? Click below on "Comments" and tell us what you're thinking.
and the livin' is easy
Fish are jumpin'
and the cotten is high.
Your daddy's rich
and your ma is good lookin.'
So hush little baby, don't you cry.....